The Blacker the Berry
There is so much to be said about self love and self acceptance. There is also much to be said about representation for ALL PEOPLE. Growing up as a darker brown-skinned, black women, you get told things like “you’re pretty for a darker girl”, or asked things like “do you really want to sit in the sun and get darker?!?”. This, coming from our own black community. Over the years, we’ve been brainwashed to think that if we didn’t have lighter skin and straight hair, we weren’t beautiful, or that society wouldn’t accept us, or that we couldn’t get a job or a proper education, because our appearance wasn't acceptable.
This idea, at one point in time, was true. Institutionalized racism ran so deep, that we started to teach one another that in order to survive, you had to assimilate and adapt - to become other than what God created you to be. You must straighten your hair, even if it means putting chemicals on your skin, pinch your nose so it wasn’t so wide, or not sit in the sun, out of fear that you’d get darker.
"My 4 year old daughter, Evan, has been noticing the difference in people’s appearances lately. I’ve taken it upon myself to also point them out, and then point out how beautiful they are…"
It is now 2018 and we, as black women are in an age of full acceptance of our features, our naturally coarse hair, and naturally brown and dark skin. This acceptance started with the afro movement in the 60’s and 70’s and has been passed on with the wonderful mantra “I’m Black and I’m Proud!”
I love the representation I am seeing now of ALL PEOPLE! Women who aren’t covering up their blemishes or feeling the need to change their hair or appearance to fit into society. Through these actions, we are creating a better world and place where people don’t feel so out of place!
My 4 year old daughter, Evan, has been noticing the difference in people’s appearances lately. I’ve taken it upon myself to also point them out, and then point out how beautiful they are - those freckles are beautiful, that full figure is beautiful, that dark dark skin is beautiful, that fair fair skin is beautiful, those tattoos are beautiful. If we don’t teach that beauty can be found in all looks, colors, and shapes, the lack of self-love continues.
So..now I’d like to take the time to show some love to my darker skin. I’ve always loved it, but I’ve grown to love it more over the years. It’s deep in tone and beautiful like smooth chocolate!
What do you like about the skin you’re in?